So after much deliberation, a few more pregnancy and birth announcements, and a couple more buckets of tears, Graham and I were put in a spot where we had to decide what was next for our fertility journey.
We had 3 options the way we looked at it, public adoption, private adoption or in-vitro fertilization. We had decided to not make any choices based on emotion and to attend the public adoption seminar, study the private adoption handbook provided by an agency here, and spend countless hours researching IVF, the procedure and our choices, and the financial aspect of all three options.
First there was public adoption. The price was next to nothing to publicly adopt, and there is financial help from the government, however, the kids are all pretty much ages 6+ as a rule. Granted there are exceptions to every rule, but, over 85% of the kids have been exposed prenatally to drugs and/or alcohol causing sever developmental issues. As first time parents, Graham and I decided that for our first child, public adoption was not for us. For anyone that is considering government adoption, or public adoption, I highly recommend you attend a seminar of sorts if one is made available to you.
Second there was private adoption. This one was hard because we both just want a baby, we don’t care how, just want a baby. In the end we are so wanting the child we lost, or a child of our own if we can. This option is not off the table by any means but simply put on hold for now….
Next was IVF… So, Alberta refuses to play nice and pay for in-vitro, but they are tired of multiple births, so to stop multiple births, and to continue to be so cheap they squeak, they changed the law and only allow one embryo to be transferred for every IVF. So if you end up with 10 embryo’s, doesn’t matter, you get one shot… That scared us off a bit, then they told us since we are young, and im thin and fit, it would “only” be $11,000…
Back to adoption….. or so we thought… So we started looking around… did some more research, some emailing, and some information gathering and found a fertility clinic with state of the art equipment, that caters to international patients, in Cancun, Mexico of all places….
So after even more research we are in the testing process. Next week I go for a bunch of bloodwork to provide to the doctors in Cancun. Also, we are waiting on a call from the Fertility Clinic so I can finish up my tests and get the results and send them over as well.
I’m starting to get super nervous but super excited for the whole process.
